When you are a mother, you will always have something to keep you busy. Be that cooking, cleaning, shopping, heading to work, or trying to stop your children from fighting with each other – your ‘to do’ list never seems to end. This means that self-care is often at the very bottom of your list – if it ever features at all.
Putting your children first is, in many cases, a natural parental instinct. However, you need to understand that you can’t pour from an empty cup. If you do not take proper care of yourself – physically and mentally – you will not be able to take care of anybody else. Therefore, it is important that you start 2021 off right by developing a new self-care routine.
Here are some great ideas to get you started!
Mum’s Day Off
No matter how much you love your family, you’ll need a little break from time to time. This can give you some time to think, or catch up with friends – or simply do nothing at all. The choice is yours. However, it is important that you set aside this time for yourself from your schedule – as it is unlikely to happen organically. You will always find something to do instead.
Once a month, schedule a ‘Day off’ in your calendar. Whether this means the kids go to visit their grandparents, or you head off for a day with the girls – find something you love doing, and simply do it. You’d be surprised about how great this can make you feel.
Be kind to yourself.
We live in a very competitive world. As a result, every time we open or social media we are bombarded by pictures of ‘super mums’, who run a household, have a job and get in a morning gym session every day. It’s hard not to feel like we are in competition with these women, or question what you are doing wrong. However, you have to remember that social media is not real life. We only put the best versions of ourselves forward, and we don’t look or act like that every day. Start being kinder to yourself. Recognise your achievements and know that you are doing a great job.
Make healthy decisions, but don’t avoid the odd indulgence.
It is important that you follow a healthy diet and lifestyle. You should also encourage your children to do the same, and leading by example is a great way to ensure that they develop healthy habits they will carry with them for the rest of their lives. However, you should not completely deprive yourself of a treat from time to time. The world will not end if you grab a slice of cake – in fact, it might make everything seem that much sweeter.
Don’t wish away problems.
Sometimes, when an issue arises – such as an illness or an injury – we try to pretend it has not happened so that we can continue with our lives. However, it is important that you address these problems and seek treatment when necessary – as injuries will only get worse if left ignored, especially if you need medical treatment.
Furthermore, if you face persistent issues, such as frequent headaches, you need to ensure you are doing everything you can to take care of yourself. Whether this means you make an appointment at the doctors, or take painkillers – do your research and find the right treatment for you. Studies have shown that cbd gummies can help relieve tension and headaches, leaving you feeling relaxed and ready to go every day!
Pursue a hobby.
Hobbies are a great way to spend any free time and can help you feel both more relaxed and accomplished. Focus on your interests, and find new challenges for yourself. For example, are you an animal lover who likes spending time outdoors? It’s time for your first riding lesson! Are you a creative who loves arts and crafts? Sign up to an online painting class.
Investing time in yourself is never selfish, and it is a great act of self-care that you should do more of in the new year.
Spend time outdoors.
If you’re cooped up in the office or in work all day, you need to ensure that you spend some time outside – even if the weather isn’t ideal. Fresh air can do you the world of good and has been proven to relieve tension and boost your body’s natural production of serotonin. This is the hormone that makes you feel happy!
There are plenty of ways you can spend more time outdoors, whether you do some yoga in your garden, or cycle to work as opposed to driving.
Set up a routine
Just as your children will follow a daily routine, you need too as well. This means getting in bed at the same time each night. Doing so can help your body (and mind) understand that it is time to go to sleep, and as a result, you will begin to feel tired around this time and will fall asleep quicker. This means you will wake up in the morning feeling fresh and alert – and will likely be more productive as a result.
Don’t be afraid to treat yourself.
As a mum, you may feel as though every penny you spend must be put towards something for your children. A new pair of shoes, a dance class, a gift for their birthday – it all adds up. However, you need to understand that there is nothing wrong with treating yourself once in a while too. Whether that means you buy yourself some skincare products, the latest book or even just a big box of chocolates that you don’t have to share. You work hard and deserve treats too!
Ask for help.
Sometimes, asking for help can be daunting. It does not matter whether we are asking a partner, friend or even our own mum’s – nobody wants to feel as though they are not capable at what they are doing and need support. However, nobody is perfect, and we all need a little help and guidance from time to time – mums included. Therefore, if you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Your friends and family are there to support you no matter what, and would much rather you reach out and ask for support than deal with issues alone. Additionally, there are plenty of groups online where you can connect with other mothers and offer support digitally – think of it as a support group that lives inside of your computer!
Start your day with affirmations.
Affirmations are a great way to start your day off on the right foot and can help you view things through a more positive lens. To begin with, stand in front of the mirror and look at your reflection. Take a few calming breaths. Then, recite a mantra that you have crafted for yourself. Here’s a great example:
“I am a good mother. I am a good friend. I am a good person. I am good at what I do”
Focus on positive aspects of yourself and magnify them. This can be a great confidence boost, even if you are saying something you aren’t entirely sure of. For example, if you are doubting how good you are at something, telling yourself you can do it is a great way to lessen anxiety.
You should do this every morning. It will not take up too much of your time but will make a huge difference to your day and how you feel.