Party Time!

It was my birthday this past weekend. Woohoo. Party time!

Not exactly! I HATE my birthday. I’m not sure why I dislike it so much, only that I feel uneasy about the whole thing. Once upon a time I saw my birthday as a celebration (like the normal people do) but I suppose as I have become older it doesn’t seem quite as exciting as it used to be.

I used to welcome expensive gifts and lavish plans; now I discourage them. There’s an internal battle as I question myself about just how deserving I am of receiving gifts or making plans. Can we afford to buy gifts and make plans? Do I really need any of these things? Should we get the carpet cleaned instead?

I eventually decide I am worthy of receiving gifts and plan making. That lasts for all of two minutes.  I remember I scrolled through Facebook while Molly was playing with her Lego and that I didn’t take hundreds of pictures. Such a bad mummy! I so do not deserve a gift or night out.

My family hate my birthday as much as I do. In fact I think they dread the occasion every year. Not because they hate me and want me to be miserable, but because of how weird I get about it.

I want a nice gift, but I don’t want a gift. I want to make plans, but I don’t want to make plans. They ask me for weeks in advance what I want to do and I tell them I don’t want to do anything because my Birthday is a none-event. Then, as the big day approaches I feel really sad that nobody wants to do anything with me for my birthday.

I’m weird/awkward/a pain in the arse/stubborn… They can’t win.

I’m rambling but what I am trying to say is that the whole birthday thing makes me feel uneasy. The sensible mummy in me says that we should save all our money, time and efforts for a more fitting occasion – like other people’s birthdays. I have no problem at all when it comes to other people’s birthdays. In fact, I go way over the top planning for their big day. I have been planning Chris and Molly’s birthdays, which are in April and July, since the start of the year. But not my own!

Anyway, fast forward to the big day. I was finally making plans with Chris, my sister Danielle and my brother in law Danny (yes, they are the Dannys). We were all baby free until the next day so we could go wild if we wanted to. We could even go to a rave or whatever these youngsters do these days. But, we are grown-ups with responsibilities so decided we should probably make plans more fitting of our age.

 

We caught a tram to the big city (Manchester) and went for a nice fancy meal and posh cocktails. It was lovely. Not rave like at all.

It was nice being out in adult company with no signs of screaming toddlers anywhere. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t miss my screaming toddler though. We spent a lot of the evening talking about our kids.

No, that wasn’t an appetiser, it was the main event. It looks and tastes nice but we were still hungry! Haha

I felt really old too. Everyone in the bars seems to be really young these days. No comments about my age please Danielle…

In the end we just wanted to go home. Well, we caught the tram back to sunny Oldham and had a drink in a local bar. Then we got a takeaway because our fancy meal didn’t fill us up.

We had a really good time but for my next birthday I might just get a takeaway and have a good old game of Monopoly. Surely there would be no fussing or weirdness in a plan like that…

Am I the only one that doesn’t like their birthday or the only one who thinks of it as a none-event? Please tell me I’m not the only weirdo out there…

 

Sam x


*UPDATE*

You can also find me blogging at Serenely Sam

 

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  1. Fiona Cambouropoulos 13/03/2017 at 10:16

    Sounds lovely and just what you needed, happy birthday!

    1. stressymama 13/03/2017 at 10:22

      Thank you ☺

  2. Fiona Cambouropoulos 13/03/2017 at 10:16

    Sounds lovely and just what you needed, happy birthday!

  3. Donna 13/03/2017 at 10:18

    I’m a bit funny about mine. Normally worrying the money should be spent on a new Hoover! So we do the same thing every yr. we go to Whitby for the day, or the closest Saturday now Michael is at school. We eat fish and chips on the beach and have a chilled out day. Jim normally buys me something I like as my gift while we’re there.

    Happy slightly late birthday!! 🎈

    1. stressymama 13/03/2017 at 10:25

      Thank you.

      That sounds lovely. I should do something like that each year so I don’t have this whole commotion about it haha. Glad it’s over for another year anyway..

  4. Laura Beresford 13/03/2017 at 16:30

    Nice to make the effort to go out! My birthday is the day after my firstborn’s so it is a bit of an anti-climax but it had been getting less and less exciting during my 20s so now in my 30s I’d rather forget it #MarvMondays

    1. stressymama 14/03/2017 at 07:47

      It was nice to be out but it didn’t feel like a birthday. I’m just glad it’s over with now for another year haha x

  5. Fran Back With A Bump 13/03/2017 at 16:39

    Happy belated birthday. The food looks lovely although I’d agree that I would still be hungry too!! Thanks for joining us for #marvmondays xx

    1. stressymama 14/03/2017 at 07:46

      Thank you x

  6. MMT 14/03/2017 at 20:45

    Oh birthdays have to be milked for all they’re worth! My birthday is in June and I start thinking about it after Christmas!
    #TriumphantTales

    1. stressymama 14/03/2017 at 20:56

      I used to once upon time.. I’m not quite sure when it changed haha

  7. Andrea @ Topsy Turvy Tribe 15/03/2017 at 20:03

    Week it looks like you had a lovely time and you can’t beat a take away can you?! I’d rather not get pants fit birthdays but other than have experience and go somewhere nice for the weekend! #familyfun

    1. stressymama 17/03/2017 at 22:25

      We had a really good time. Thank you the comment x

  8. Karen | TwoTinyHands 16/03/2017 at 06:17

    Happy Birthday! A child free meal out seems like a treat! I’d totally miss my little if we did that. I sort of get you though, I feel it’s a bit of a non event now. It’s like I don’t actually need anything because I have everything I want and the thought of going out fills me with dread. I’m happy with a bit of a special family day now, an extra treat or something! ‪Thank you for linking up to the #familyfunlinky‬

    1. stressymama 17/03/2017 at 22:26

      Thank you x

  9. Hayley@ Mission: Mindfulness 17/03/2017 at 06:42

    No – I do get this! Such a mix of emotions with Birthdays. Hope you had some fun though. xx #familyfun

    1. stressymama 18/03/2017 at 00:03

      I did. Thank you x

  10. Jaki J 18/03/2017 at 18:17

    Aw, Happy Birthday lovely. What you did looks just lovely. I am one of those people who loves their birthday, in fact I milk it for a week!! 🙂 Thanks so much for linking up to #TriumphantTales

    1. stressymama 19/03/2017 at 22:52

      Thank you x

  11. Mrs Mummy Harris 19/03/2017 at 14:09

    I completely get this, as I’m getting older I just dont get excited about it anymore. I feels like a regular day and I feel like the money is being wasted (im a late november birthday so christmas is always what i think we should be focusing on – even pre-kids!)
    Hubby really spoilt me last year as it was my 30th and i went to the restaurant where they film first dates and went to see Dreamgirls. That was the last time i’d let him spoil me like that and not moan! whereas like you, everyone elses birthdays i get so excited for!!
    Thank you for linking up to #TriumphantTales. I hope to see next week

    1. stressymama 19/03/2017 at 22:54

      Thank you. I was completely spoilt for my 30th too but that’s a big one so I didn’t mind haha x

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