Living with Someone who Sleep Talks and Sleep Walks
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Living with Someone who Sleep Talks and Sleep Walks

Living with someone who sleep talks and sleep walks can be tough. At least once a week I am woken up by my partner, Chris, either talking in his sleep or moving around. It could either be just the one occurrence in that particular night, or it could happen several times throughout the night.

Sleep talking is exactly what it says on the tin; a sleep disorder resulting in a person talking during their sleep. The person is usually very much unaware of the fact they have been talking, because they are asleep. There are many causes of sleep talking, ranging from stress and depression, to food and alcohol consumption. Sleep talking could also be hereditary.

Sleep walking, again, is exactly what it’s name suggests; a person who walks around when they are asleep. Sometimes it may be a case of the person just waking and sitting up, or they may actually get out of bed and carry out activities. Some triggers of sleep walking can include stress, illness, alcohol consumption or being woken suddenly.

Living with someone who sleep talks and sleep walks, as I have for seven years now, makes you become aware of the triggers that affect the person and how best to handle each occurrence.

I have noticed Chris talks and walks in his sleep more frequently than usual if he is stressed, if he has had any caffeine before bed, or if he has had any alcohol.

The majority of what Chris says in his sleep is incoherent; just a few muddled words or mumblings here and there. He has a tendency to thrash about the bed when in a sleep walking state, stray arms and all, before going back to sleep none the wiser. Yes, I have been on the receiving end of a stray arm a few times over the years. This is the reason co-sleeping was never an option with Molly when she was a baby. Though of late she seems to be in our bed all the blummin time. In this weather too! She moves around just as much as her daddy so if she is in the bed, I get even less sleep.

I am up a lot in the night because Molly is a bit of an insomniac. Her sleep has improved immensely over recent months but I still find myself up with her at least once a night. She often shouts out and laughs in her sleep. And she has also been known to have night terrors. It isn’t hard to see that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree where Chris and Molly’s sleeping habits are concerned.

I digress, but as I am up a lot in the night, I see and hear a lot of Chris’ ramblings. Sometimes, if I’ve been up with Molly he’ll be sat upright on the bed when I return. I’ll think he’s awake, because he appears to be, but then he utters some gibberish I can’t understand and goes back to sleep.

Some of his ramblings really are quite amusing though to be honest. I’ve actually laughed out loud a few times as he tells me a random story that makes absolutely no sense at all.

Chris does wake himself up sometimes with his talking, or actions. He tells me stories of his sleep walking occurrences before we met. At least twice he has found himself at work at 5am when he shouldn’t start until 8am. It is scary to think of how he managed to get there whilst asleep. Thankfully, that hasn’t happened for a few years. Luckily, I am quite a light sleeper and I always manage to get him back to bed if he is wandering.

A few of the things Chris has said while asleep that made me laugh include:
  • I don’t like tomato soup
  • We had fish
  • It’s in the f*****g kitchen
  • How is Molly? Is she settled? Shall I check her?
  • Can I have a double pepperoni pizza please!


A few of the things Chris has done while asleep include:
  • He randomly started massaging my arm and asking if I was okay. Erm… I was matey a few seconds ago..
  • He grabbed my belly. When I asked what the hell he was doing he informed me the laptop was falling off the bed. My belly being the laptop. There wasn’t a laptop on my belly! Or even anywhere near the bedroom for that matter.
  • So many times he has got up and ready for work. At 3am! Though I think quite a few people have done that.
  • He is forever checking his alarm clock and turning it on and off
  • A lot of the time he randomly sits bolt upright. I ask what he’s doing and have to encourage him to lie back down.
  • The worst thing he does is when I wake up to find him staring at me. When I ask what he’s doing he smiles and does a weird laugh. Very creepy!


When I speak to Chris about our late night “discussions” the following morning he never remembers any of it. He thinks he’s slept all night, and that Molly has slept all night too.  That can be quite frustrating to hear, especially when I’m walking around like a zombie through lack of sleep.

Have you any experience of your partner or children sleep talking or sleep walking? Or are you a sleep talker or sleepwalker yourself? I’d love to hear your stories.


Sam x


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  • five little doves

    I talk in my sleep most nights, and am prone to sleepwalking too! My husband found it really strange when we first got together but now he is used to it!

    • stressymama

      Do you. I suppose I found it quite strange at first but it’s just one of them things now.. x

  • Kizzy

    All three of my children and my husband sleep talk from time to time. My husband has a tendency to shout out and swear too which then wakes everyone up. My eldest went through a stage of sleep walking which was quite scary but he seemed to grow out of it.

  • Michelle Twin Mum

    Gosh this must be so difficult for you, it’s lucky you love Chris! I used to sleep talk as a child/ teen and I don’t believe I do now but I remember a sleepover where I argued with another girl (both in our sleep) and our third friend reported it all back in the morning. I’m glad it was before mobile phones or it might have been shared! Mich X

  • OddHogg

    I am a sleep talker, but unlike most I am often aware of what I’ve said or done. This is mostly because I shout it so it wakes me up mid sentence! I can be quite animated when I sleep too and in the past have done a few similar things to your partner – including grabbing my partners ear and tugging on it because I thought it was a kettle!

  • Lisa

    This made me laugh so much and yes I can relate. When my eldest was little through to about 10 years old, she would regularly sleep walk into my room and I would wake to find her standing there staring at me. As for the talking, my boyfriend doesn’t sleep talk, so much as he sleep swears. It’s hilarious, but sadly I cannot share as it is literally all swear words #TriumphantTales x

  • Tracey Abrahams

    Mr A sometimes talks in his sleep. He will suddenly sit up, come out with some gibberish nonsense and then lie down and be snoring agaim before ive fully comprehended that he was actually sleep talking.

  • Lisa Pomerantz

    Apparently I sleep talk. I have entire conversations with the Mrs. and the kids, none of which I ever remember and all of which leaves them laughing hysterically. One time, my Mrs., she recorded me. Ugh, but add sleep walking to the mix and all I can do is email you a hug! You must be exhausted, you poor thing! #TriumphantTales <3

  • Nige

    Apparently I talk in my sleep but usually it’s the same rubbish I say when I’m awake haha! You must knackered great read #triupmhanttales

  • chickenruby

    i’m a sleep shouter and a sleep fighter, usually triggered when i’m very stressed or in a unfamiliar location, my husband used to have full conversations with me of which I’d remember nothing of in the morning #triumphanttales

  • Natasha Mairs

    my 12 year old son often talks in his sleep and it can be so funny the things he says. If I woke up to my husband staring at me and then laughing I would be pretty creeped out #FamilyFunLinky

  • Kara

    Apparently I am a talker and my girls are too. I can have a full conversation with Abbey when she is asleep LOL

  • Tammymum

    Oh its weird isn’t it. My other half talks in his sleep, I can tell when he is stressed as that’s when he does it and he usually swears, loudly! He slept walked once and it was really scary as we were in a hotel room and was trying to get on the balcony! Scary times! Thank you for joining us at #familyfun

  • Rosie Corriette

    I’ve been told that I talk in my sleep, apparently I chat utter nonesense! My mum recently told me that when I was a teenager, would would sob my heart out while sleeping, which is pretty weird considering I’m known for not crying…

  • Jeremy@ThirstyDaddy

    my daughter is prone to sleepwalking. every once in a while she’ll come downstairs and just stand, staring at us. Its a bit creepy to tell the truth #triumphanttales

  • Jaki

    I love this. I am a sleep walker. At least I used to be. I used to freak my parents out when I was little. Hubby says he’s certain I’ve been sleepwalking since we’ve been together but he’s normally zonked before me and rarely wakes up so I’ve no idea really if I do it anymore! Thanks so much for linking up to #TriumphantTales – hope to see you again on Tuesday!

  • The Pramshed

    I think that this would freak me out a little if I’m honest. I have known my husband to do some weird things, and then he can never remember them in the morning. I also used to wake in the middle after my daughter was born and think that she was trapped in the bed. The human mind is a strange thing. Thanks so much for sharing this and linking up with us at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x