Professional development is all the rage right now. People want to feel as if they are progressing in their careers, not stagnating in the same old nine-to-five.
Employers, therefore, now offer a host of training opportunities designed to improve everything from manual handling to leadership.
Professional development, though, isn’t just something that has benefits in the workplace – the positive effects can rub off on your kids too.
When you think about it, this idea makes a lot of sense. Business is all about negotiation, being assertive, not aggressive, and communicating to a high standard. And ideally, the same should be true of parenting. Great moms do whatever they can to meet the needs of their kids without forgetting their own.
Here are some of the things that professional development teaches you that also makes you a better parent.
You Can’t Always Win
Rigorous professional development regularly throws candidates into no-win situations. It might sound unfair, but it is deliberate. We don’t live in a nice cozy world where everything always works out for the best. Sometimes you lose – and you have to be prepared to deal with it.
The same holds for relationships with your kids. You can’t expect every interaction to be pleasant and uplifting. That’s not how relationships work. Sometimes things don’t work out well, even with the best of intentions.
Listen First Before Speaking
If you watch great leaders in action, you find that they always wait until everyone has had their say before coming to a judgment.
There are all sorts of reasons for this. On a practical level, it allows you to take in all relevant information before heaping responsibility on yourself. But it goes much deeper than this. Allowing everyone to speak shows that you’re comfortable “containing” whatever bile they want to throw at you. Coping with verbal onslaughts and taking them in your stride is the sign of a leader who is comfortable in their position. Shutting people down is a sign of weakness.
Parents need to adopt a similar mode of thinking. The more that you can show your kids that you’re okay with them talking about what they want, the more you enhance your position.
You Don’t Always Know Everything About A Situation
Parents often find themselves in a position where they have to resolve disputes between children. Usually, it’s a case of “he said, she said,” and it is often difficult to know what to do next.
Professional development teaches you that similar things happen in the workplace. The world is so uncertain that you never really know whether the decisions that you make today will help you in the future.
You Think Of Others Before Yourself
The ultimate goal of professional development is to move you to a place where you prioritize the needs of your team over your own. As you might expect, only a tiny number of people ever get there in the course of their careers.
This type of thinking, however, can help when parenting too. You learn to put your ego aside and just do what’s best for your child.