Guilty Mama Syndrome
Lifestyle,  Parenting

Guilty Mama Syndrome

I’ve just had a lovely, relaxing, baby free, night away at a hotel with my sister. We both have toddlers so the break was planned weeks ago; it was planned to within an inch of it’s life to make sure we got the most out of it.

We spent the afternoon relaxing in the pool, jacuzzi and steam room. It was absolute bliss.

After all that relaxing it was time to get ready for dinner. In peace. With no interruptions. There was rushing around, and we even managed to sit down and watch Emmerdale, in peace, before leaving.

We arrived at the restaurant and ordered our food and drink. Ahhh Prosecco…

We could engage in quiet, uninterrupted adult conversation and eat our food in peace. We didn’t have to have stern words or give the look to anyone. There were no signs of anyone crawling under the table picking food up off the floor because the child thinks it’s funny to see mummy crawling around like that.

The food was lovely, the Prosecco was amazing, and the company was perfect. We finished dinner and then we went to the cinema.

We were able to sit and eat our popcorn without sticky toddler hands all over it. There was a 100% chance of no toddler throw back in our drinks. We could sit in silence and watch a full film without having to pause and rewind it several times before giving up, and inevitabley putting Cbeebies back on.  I mean, there are only so many times I can listen to my toddler screaming “want tumble” at the top of her lungs before giving in..

The film was amazing. But it was time to head back to the hotel. We both climbed in our beds, exhausted from all our relaxing!  The next thing I know it was morning. I must have dropped off as soon as my head hit the pillow. What a luxury!

We got ready and went down for breakfast. It was a buffet breakfast so even though I wasn’t that hungry, I went completely overboard.  It felt compulsory that I should.. I wouldn’t eat a croissant, followed by a yoghurt and then onto a cooked breakfast at home so why I thought I could manage all that in a hotel I don’t know..

With the end of breakfast came time to check out and head home. I didn’t want to leave my hotel room. I wanted to move into the hotel and do all this relaxing every day, but I knew I couldn’t and honestly, I couldn’t wait to get home.

As much as I was looking forward to a nice break away, and my sister and I both had an amazing time, I couldn’t help but miss and worry constantly about my baby girl the entire time I was at the hotel.

Did her dad pick her up from nursery ok? Did he check what her homework was for this week? What is daddy making her for dinner? Has the bedtime routine gone as planned? Has she stayed in bed asleep or has she been up and down all night? How much breakfast has she eaten? Have there been any tantrums? Has she been out to the park or anywhere else?

I really enjoyed being at the hotel but I must admit I felt guilty the entire time I was there. I had a bad case of guilty mama syndrome and couldn’t enjoy the break as much as I should have, because Molly wasn’t there. When we went swimming I felt guilty because Molly loves swimming. I felt guilty about going to a nice restaurant because guess what, Molly likes food.  I even felt guilty about going to the cinema because Molly likes watching things on the television (more than I would care to admit..)!

Why did I feel guilty for having a break? I know I shouldn’t have but I couldn’t help it. I was so glad to get back home and give my daughter a massive hug and kiss. She was so happy to see me. The sparkle in her eyes and then her coming charging for me when I walked through the door made my eyes fill up. She had missed me as much as I had missed her. I was never leaving her again!

Ten minutes later she was having a tantrum and I was texting my sister to see when she next wants to go for a night away..

I was back to reality.. with a bang!




Do you ever get a case of guilty mama syndrome if you dare to even think about doing something for yourself? I wonder if the feelings of guilty mama syndrone ease as our children get older?


Sam x


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  • Samsam - Simply A Mama

    hahaha I know what you mean. Whenever us moms get time away from our babies even though we could be enjoying every minute we end up missing them so much and worrying #fortheloveofBLOG

    • stressymama

      I know. It’s hard though. We do need time away for the sake of our sanity. Ha! I think I just need to remind myself that she is well looked after and most probably not even missing me! Ha. Thank you for the lovely comment x

  • thebritishmaple

    Mama Guilt – the conundrum of parenthood! I used to feel guilty about leaving my man cubs with daddy but after almost four years of slogging it out I now feel I have earned my time away! Glad you enjoyed yourself, no guilt necessary #fortheloveofBLOG

    • stressymama

      We shouldn’t feel guilty but we do don’t we. I will even feel guilty about leaving her with her Grandma tomorrow while I go to the dentist! I need to get over it I think and start enjoying some me time. Thank you for the lovely comment. X

  • twotinyhands

    Ahh you shouldn’t feel guilty. Everyone needs a break and it sounds like you got one. A nice treat. They are our worlds these little people it’d only natural to miss them!! Thanks for linking up to #familyfun

  • tammymum

    Oh that’s sounds like a perfect evening and I have mega envy of it. To sit and eat a meal without baked beans or high chairs in sight and no 6am wake up call must be bliss. I know what you mean though about the guilt. I’ve had days out with the OH and left my two with Nan and grandad and always feel guilty by the end but why? There really is no need! I’m glad you had such a good time. Thank you for sharing at #familyfun xx

    • stressymama

      The guilt must be embedded into us as parents ha. We work hard enough as parents though so we should make the most of our free time shouldn’t we. ☺

  • The Pramshed

    This sounds absolutely perfect, and there is no need to feel guilty about it. We are all entitled to time away from our children, especially as we’ve spent so much time with them. It helps to have a break away, refocus, and come back to that gorgeous smile from them. Thanks so much for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

  • mymomworldblog

    That sounds so stress relieving! I think I need a night out too lol! I always feel guilty too if I leave my boys somewhere. I hope the guilt will lessen over time but in a way I like it there because it makes me realize how much I love them and miss them when they aren’t around.

    • stressymama

      Having that time away sure does make us realise just what we have at home, and makes us realise just how blessed we are. Us parents do deserve a night out every now and again but no matter what we do, or how often, I think we will always feel guilty. That shouldn’t stop us though! Haha. ☺