I have made a conscious decision to be more appreciative and grateful for everything I have. It’s easy to get down about life’s daily struggles, but why dwell on things that we cannot change? Don’t Worry, Be Happy will be my motto from now on.
Yes there may be a few negatives along the way, but there are so many more positive things to appreciate and be grateful for. Instead of dwelling and stressing about things that cannot be changed, I am making a conscious effort to change the way I think about things. I am choosing to be happy by focussing on the positives in my life, however big or small they may be.
One of my biggest complaints of late is about my house. I am either complaining about:
- The garden being boring and awful
- That the neighbours are noisy
- Or even that I need to move to a better school district before we have to apply to primary schools
These are really negative ways to think about the place I call home. Negative thinking will attract negative energy into our home. When I actually stopped to think about my complaints, I realised there actually isn’t a problem.
I’m sick of looking at the plain old magnolia walls, but I can decorate. I live across the street from my sister and I would miss that if I moved. The house is more than big enough for my little family.
The garden is plain and boring but it is perfect for children. The area isn’t the best and I don’t really want Molly to grow up here. But even though it might not be the best area in town, my little cul-de-sac street of only nine houses is pretty prefect. And we have so many amenities on our doorstep which is amazing.
Instead of complaining about Molly having tantrums all day every day, I should remember I am blessed that I even have a child of my own. Due to having Polycystic Ovaries and Endometriosis my Gynaecologist told me I would never have children. I know people who have been trying to conceive, unsuccessfully, for years, and my heart truly breaks for them. I have been there so I empathise completely.
Instead of moaning about never having time to work on the crafts that interest me, maybe I should spend less time moaning and more time actually doing them.
Like I said at the beginning, it is easy for us to feel down about our day to day struggles but we shouldn’t dwell on these. We should count our blessings, and if we aren’t happy about something we should change it.
My plan going forward is:
- To make the effort to think more positively
- Read the many Mindfulness/Positive Thinking books I have purchased and never got around to reading
I need to remember that the most important things in life are usually the smallest things. When I am an old lady looking back on my life, I am not going to remember how expensive my boots were or if my house was nice and clean am I? What I am going to remember is the small things, which are actually the big things.
I drew this picture randomly one day when I was colouring with Molly…
I pointed to the picture and asked her who it was. Molly got really excited and shouted that it was daddy. It made me chuckle. I asked her again and got the same response.
Now I keep randomly drawing pictures like that and asking who it is. Without fail, every single time, she says daddy. It’s silly but it is one of the the cutest things I have ever seen. It cost nothing and it is, and will always be, one of my best memories.
‘Daddy’ every time! I would love to know what makes her think it’s daddy. What resemblance she sees. It makes me laugh just thinking about it.
What this world needs right now is a bit of positive thinking, appreciation and gratitude. I think we could all go far if we adopted this mantra.
So in the words of the great Bobby McFerrin, “Don’t worry, be happy…”
Thanks for reading,