Health,  Lifestyle

Don’t Worry, Be Happy

I have made a conscious decision to be more appreciative and grateful for everything I have. It’s easy to get down about life’s daily struggles, but why dwell on things that we cannot change? Don’t Worry, Be Happy will be my motto from now on.

Yes there may be a few negatives along the way, but there are so many more positive things to appreciate and be grateful for. Instead of dwelling and stressing about things that cannot be changed, I am making a conscious effort to change the way I think about things.  I am choosing to be happy by focussing on the positives in my life, however big or small they may be.

One of my biggest complaints of late is about my house.  I am either complaining about:

  • The garden being boring and awful
  • That the neighbours are noisy
  • Or even that I need to move to a better school district before we have to apply to primary schools

These are really negative ways to think about the place I call home. Negative thinking will attract negative energy into our home. When I actually stopped to think about my complaints, I realised there actually isn’t a problem.

I’m sick of looking at the plain old magnolia walls, but I can decorate. I live across the street from my sister and I would miss that if I moved. The house is more than big enough for my little family.

The garden is plain and boring but it is perfect for children. The area isn’t the best and I don’t really want Molly to grow up here. But even though it might not be the best area in town, my little cul-de-sac street of only nine houses is pretty prefect. And we have so many amenities on our doorstep which is amazing.

Instead of complaining about Molly having tantrums all day every day, I should remember I am blessed that I even have a child of my own. Due to having Polycystic Ovaries and Endometriosis my Gynaecologist told me I would never have children. I know people who have been trying to conceive, unsuccessfully, for years, and my heart truly breaks for them. I have been there so I empathise completely.

Instead of moaning about never having time to work on the crafts that interest me, maybe I should spend less time moaning and more time actually doing them.

Like I said at the beginning, it is easy for us to feel down about our day to day struggles but we shouldn’t dwell on these. We should count our blessings, and if we aren’t happy about something we should change it.

My plan going forward is:

  • To make the effort to think more positively
  • Read the many Mindfulness/Positive Thinking books I have purchased and never got around to reading

I need to remember that the most important things in life are usually the smallest things. When I am an old lady looking back on my life, I am not going to remember how expensive my boots were or if my house was nice and clean am I? What I am going to remember is the small things, which are actually the big things.

I drew this picture randomly one day when I was colouring with Molly…

I pointed to the picture and asked her who it was. Molly got really excited and shouted that it was daddy. It made me chuckle. I asked her again and got the same response.

Now I keep randomly drawing pictures like that and asking who it is. Without fail, every single time, she says daddy. It’s silly but it is one of the the cutest things I have ever seen. It cost nothing and it is, and will always be, one of my best memories.

‘Daddy’ every time! I would love to know what makes her think it’s daddy. What resemblance she sees. It makes me laugh just thinking about it.

What this world needs right now is a bit of positive thinking, appreciation and gratitude. I think we could all go far if we adopted this mantra.

So in the words of the great Bobby McFerrin, “Don’t worry, be happy…

Thanks for reading,

Sam x


You can also find me blogging at Serenely Sam

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  • aliduke79hotmailcom

    We all moan, but we have so much to be grateful for. We just need to push those things to the front of our minds instead of the negative things.

  • Lucy's Locket

    I also try to focus on the positives. It is hard to be upbeat all the time, but it does help, especially for things you have no control over. #ForTheLoveOfBlog

    • stressymama

      It is so easy for us to fall into negative thinking, the hard part is to try to remind ourselves to think positive as often as we can ☺

  • Two Tiny Hands (@IsntitprettyKTB)

    loving everything you’ve said here! I also love how you draw the picture of Daddy a lot, again and again. That is really cute… We should all put on a positive mental attitude shouldn’t we? Thanks for linking up to #familyfun

    • stressymama

      Daddy can’t see the resemblance in the picture. I think it’s hilarious 😆

  • tammymum

    wow this is amazing, it really is brilliant. I love the positive spin you have put on everything there and its an inspiration to everyone, I have definetly taken a lot from it. I am guilty of moaning about things when actually I should be grateful! thank you for sharing this at #familyfun xx

    • stressymama

      Thank you for the lovely comment. It is easy for us to become lost in the negatives and I am guilty of that, but if we try to see the positives in everything then surely we will be so much happier. Easier said than done sometimes but definitely worth trying. X

  • mymomworldblog

    This is a very good post! It is just what I was thinking about this week. I was pretty busy this week so I was very tired in the evenings. So tired that I didn’t really take some time to cuddle my boys. I regret that already! The small things really are so important and I believe that’s what shapes our children’s character,not just showing them how to work and clean (although those are very important attributes to have).

    • stressymama

      It is so easy to get swept up in the little struggles of our everyday lives, especially when we are busy. We need to remind ourselves of what is actually important from time to time and count our blessings don’t we. X

  • Back With A Bump

    Its easy to moan but important we remember to be grateful for what ae do have as theres plenty of people who are worse off than us! Thanks for joining us for #marvmondays

  • Mummy Mindful

    Ah Sam love that you’re going to give mindfulness more of a go and this is a great post reminding us all of one of the core principles – to be grateful for what we have. I love the anecdote about the drawing and the daddy comment – sooooo sweet. #fortheloveofBLOG x

    • stressymama

      Thank you. It really is so sweet when she calls that picture daddy. Makes me laugh every time x

  • The Pramshed

    Ah that is so cute! Your post is so important we should all be grateful for the little things and appreciate what we have. I’m fairly guilty of focusing on the negative things like the house needs painting or the garden needs sorting, but instead we should feel lucky to have them. Thanks so much for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

    • stressymama

      It’s easy to focus on the negative things isn’t it? Sometimes I think the hard part is trying to focus our minds on just thinking about the positives. X