Date Night

Chris and I have just been for a long overdue date night. I can’t remember the last time just the two of us went out together. It was lovely to have some time for ourselves, without the toddler.

Thinking about date nights got me reminiscing about our relationship…

I met Chris through my brother in law. I had seen him around and about every now and then but we never had the chance to chat.

When we did, it instantly felt as if I had known him for a lifetime and like he was my best friend. Ironically, my best friend had stood me up that evening and if he hadn’t, I most probably wouldn’t have started talking Chris. (Thank you fate!)

We moved in with each other after only 6 months together. That seems really fast, but he was spending most of the time at my house anyway so it seemed logical.

We moved into a new build town centre apartment which was amazing. Everything was new and luxurious, we had lovely neighbours, and we had a vast array of bars and restaurants on our doorstep. We ate out most of the time because it was easier than cooking after long days at work.

We suddenly had a lot more friends who wanted to stay over too… I wonder if the proximity to the bars had anything to do with it..! For a young couple it was perfect, and our own little piece of paradise.

I digress, but it felt like every day was a date night at that point. Whether we went for a quick drink after work, a takeaway with a movie, or Sunday lunch. Any excuse not to cook and we took it. It was pre-child so we could do whatever the hell we wanted. I don’t know why we bothered with a cooker to be honest.

We stayed in our town centre paradise for about 2 years before moving to a ‘grown up’ house.

Fast forward a few years and here we are…

We still love to eat out but the child loves to cause a scene, so we avoid that as much as possible. As all parents know, you can’t just decide to go out whenever you want when you have children.  Nights out have to be planned well in advance, meaning date nights are few and far between.

If I go out without Molly I always feel guilty for leaving her. But, Chis and I needed a night out so we arranged a babysitter anyway. The plan for this date night was to go for a nice meal and onto the cinema. We finished our meal and as we were enjoying a drink and conversation we somehow got to talking about things we had forgotten to get in the big shop that week.

God knows why but we decided to give the cinema a miss and pop to the local supermarket. We also bought cream cakes, sweets, and a DVD. Then we went home.

I felt guilty, like we weren’t doing date night right or something. We should have been out of the house making the most of being baby free for the evening. But no, there we were, at home, scoffing our faces with cakes and sweets.

You know what though, us being sat at home eating junk food in our pjs while watching a nice RomCom was damn near perfect. I think the next time we get to have a date night I might just order a takeaway and stick another DVD on… (unless date night involves going to the theatre then I’m already there!)

No fuss. No messing about. Just me and Chris making the most of our time alone. Perfect, and how a date night should be.

What is your idea of a perfect date night?

Sam x


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    • stressymama

      They are. It is nice to go out and all but why make all that effort when a date night in is just a good. That’s what I think anyway ha x

  • twotinyhands

    Brilliant date id say! I know if I went to the cinema now i would likely fall asleep so you probably did the best thing. Alone time with each other is important however it’s done! Thanks for linking up to #familyfun

  • tammymum

    Ahh that’s lovely who cares what you are doing as long as you are doing it together and our happy with it., glad you enjoyed and hope you get another soon! Thanks for sharing at #familyfun

    • stressymama

      Me too. Ha. We are planning a trip to the Xmas markets soon so I hope we get the chance. But I might just make some mulled wine at home instead..ha. Thanks for commenting x

    • stressymama

      I know it’s nice going out sometimes but just staying in can be fab too x

  • littlepaperswans

    Sounds like a perfect date night to me. My husband and I had an evening out to see a comedian. It was lovely to spend time together just us.


    • stressymama

      Family time is amazing but you can’t beat some one on one time every now and again x

  • Winnettes

    This is lovely. I love a date night and I miss our time with out the girls sometimes. Sometimes the best times you can spend together are sat chilling on the sofa. We often leave the TV off and play a card game we haven’t played in years, or scrabble.

    • stressymama

      That sounds nice. We were actually just talking the other day about playing board games because it’s something we haven’t done for a while. X

  • mummymiller

    I think the nicest date nights are sometimes the ones you spend at home! We love sticking a film on and just binging on sweets and just spending time together, the other week we had a puzzle night (or two, the puzzle was blooming huge!) and it was nice just to do something together #fortheloveofBLOG

    • stressymama

      Staying in playing games sounds pretty perfect to me. Especially now it’s getting colder too.x

  • Laura Dove

    I agree, date nights don’t have to be big extravagant gestures or even leaving the house. I think staying in with a nice meal and a good film can be just as lovely, especially at this time of year when it’s freezing outside! #MarvMondays

    • stressymama

      Totally agree. No messing about. Not to mention cheaper too haha 😆

  • Katy - Hot Pink Wellingtons

    Our last date night was a meal out, but at heart I’m a homebody and I’m happiest curled up on the sofa! I think you can’t beat it when the weather gets cold like it is at the moment – a nice meal, hot chocolate a good film and a cuddle, and you’re all set! Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • stressymama

      Oooh hot chocolate is a good shout. I think I might make one now ha 😆

  • Jo (Mother of Teenagers)

    Having time out alone is so rewarding when you have kids and sometimes it doesn’t need to be complicated at all. Some of our best date nights are just being home pretending we don’t have kids! #MarvMondays

    • stressymama

      We like going out for meals and to the theatre but it is nice staying home too. Even if you just sit and watch TV all night it’s perfect because usually we are up and down to the toddler all the time so at least this way its uninterrupted TV time ha 😂

    • stressymama

      If we have planned on watching/doing something my daughter wakes up constantly. Guaranteed. So even if we have a date night in we would have to send her to her aunties or nanny’s for the night ha. And that way we would actually get some sleep too ha

  • dearbearandbeany

    At this time of year when its cold and miserable outside I can’t imagine anything better than a date night at home. It sounds pretty perfect to me. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove x

    • stressymama

      Same. I can’t believe how wintery it’s gotten so quickly. Hot chocolate and trashy TV sounds perfect to me.

  • Family Makes

    I guess a date night is whatever you want it to be. It’s a relatively new concept anyway, so we get to make up the rules! Glad you enjoyed your time together #SharingtheBlogLove

    • stressymama

      A date night with the OH is fab, but a date night by myself sounds even better! Ha. No interruptions from anyone. Wine to myself. What could be better.. ha. x

  • Amie Richards

    It’s like reading my own thoughts! When max was 3 months old we decided to give a date night a go I.e food somewhere and cinema, instead we went shopping, got a kebab takeaway and went home to watch a film and have an early baby and toddler free night!it really was the best just being in pjs chilling out, the best date night we could have asked for! #MarvMondays

    • stressymama

      Couldn’t agree more. We have actually planned the next date night and we are just going to stay in. Just need to book the babysitter in now. I can’t wait ha x

  • Sunita

    Ah date nights. well they come in all shapes and sizes don’t they? The other day I joined my husband on a little road trip during day. If felt like a date for us as the girls were at nursery that day. So we had a glam lunch at the 1980s service station!! I joked that it felt that it was like we were on a date as I couldn’t remember the last time we ate out on our own! As Helen says, any time together is cool. These days we’re creative! #fortheloveofBLOG

    • stressymama

      I think getting time alone is what’s important, and I suppose it doesn’t really matter what it is we’re doing.

  • My Petit Canard

    Sounds like a perfect date night to me! Once you have little ones it doesnt really matter where you go or what you do, just that you have time together 🙂 We are long overdue a date night and reading about yours reminded me to get organised! Thanks for sharing this on #MarvMondays. Emily

    • stressymama

      The funny thing is that even though you are kid free for an evening you probably spend most of the time talking about them. Ha

  • Marko @ Parent Support Hub

    My wife and I would tell you that you’ve jus described our ideal date night. 😀 We don’t like going out. We just love when we can communicate without distractions. We can focus on each other, not our jobs, children, house, extended family, etc. Watching some nice movie with a bowl of popcorns in our lap is what makes us truly happy. 🙂