Chris and I have just been for a long overdue date night. I can’t remember the last time just the two of us went out together. It was lovely to have some time for ourselves, without the toddler.
Thinking about date nights got me reminiscing about our relationship…
I met Chris through my brother in law. I had seen him around and about every now and then but we never had the chance to chat.
When we did, it instantly felt as if I had known him for a lifetime and like he was my best friend. Ironically, my best friend had stood me up that evening and if he hadn’t, I most probably wouldn’t have started talking Chris. (Thank you fate!)
We moved in with each other after only 6 months together. That seems really fast, but he was spending most of the time at my house anyway so it seemed logical.
We moved into a new build town centre apartment which was amazing. Everything was new and luxurious, we had lovely neighbours, and we had a vast array of bars and restaurants on our doorstep. We ate out most of the time because it was easier than cooking after long days at work.
We suddenly had a lot more friends who wanted to stay over too… I wonder if the proximity to the bars had anything to do with it..! For a young couple it was perfect, and our own little piece of paradise.
I digress, but it felt like every day was a date night at that point. Whether we went for a quick drink after work, a takeaway with a movie, or Sunday lunch. Any excuse not to cook and we took it. It was pre-child so we could do whatever the hell we wanted. I don’t know why we bothered with a cooker to be honest.
We stayed in our town centre paradise for about 2 years before moving to a ‘grown up’ house.
Fast forward a few years and here we are…
We still love to eat out but the child loves to cause a scene, so we avoid that as much as possible. As all parents know, you can’t just decide to go out whenever you want when you have children. Nights out have to be planned well in advance, meaning date nights are few and far between.
If I go out without Molly I always feel guilty for leaving her. But, Chis and I needed a night out so we arranged a babysitter anyway. The plan for this date night was to go for a nice meal and onto the cinema. We finished our meal and as we were enjoying a drink and conversation we somehow got to talking about things we had forgotten to get in the big shop that week.
God knows why but we decided to give the cinema a miss and pop to the local supermarket. We also bought cream cakes, sweets, and a DVD. Then we went home.
I felt guilty, like we weren’t doing date night right or something. We should have been out of the house making the most of being baby free for the evening. But no, there we were, at home, scoffing our faces with cakes and sweets.
You know what though, us being sat at home eating junk food in our pjs while watching a nice RomCom was damn near perfect. I think the next time we get to have a date night I might just order a takeaway and stick another DVD on… (unless date night involves going to the theatre then I’m already there!)
No fuss. No messing about. Just me and Chris making the most of our time alone. Perfect, and how a date night should be.
What is your idea of a perfect date night?